I recently made a point to ask my guests if they have any tips for avoiding a ‘slurred’ dinner party meal.
They laughed and said they never did, because they don’t have the slightest idea what it is.
But when I said the word “slur,” a number of people looked at me like I was mad.
And, yes, it can happen to you.
“I don’t know what that is, but it happens,” one person said.
The other people I spoke to said it is called a “slurt” because it is a mixture of various things.
Some people may even say it is the word that comes to mind when you think of a dessert that is a little too soft.
But it can also be a word that just makes people laugh.
And that’s not a bad thing.
For example, in the same study that I mentioned earlier, about 15% of participants said they would “probably” or “probably not” use a slur.
And they all told me, “I do not have any thoughts on what to say, but I definitely do not want to be rude.”
They also said they’d use whatever language is appropriate for the occasion, which was, of course, “glitchy.”
And it’s not just slang either, it’s also what we do in our everyday conversations.
I know a lot of us say “that” or the word in a casual manner.
We might also use it in a more formal way, but this is the kind of language we use in our daily conversations.
It’s called “casual” and it’s just as bad as the “slurred” or any other type of “slurring” that people might have in their vocabulary.
It is simply a way to make things awkward or annoying, but most people aren’t aware that it is causing a problem.
Slurs can come from all over the place, and it can be as innocuous as “what are you doing out here?” or it can have a negative connotation, like “that’s really gross.”
But it’s important to remember that, as with everything else, it doesn’t have to be offensive or rude to be used.
For that matter, it shouldn’t even have to hurt.
People use it to get their point across, or it could even be a compliment.
I’d like to hear from anyone who has used a slur that they think is a mistake.
Share your tips for making your next meal enjoyable with the rest of the world.
What’s the best way to avoid a slur?
Here are some tips that are just a little bit better than the usual “don’t do it.”
1.
Have the conversation right when it’s appropriate to use a word like “slut.”
There’s no shame in using it in an informal setting.
The first time I heard a “slimy” comment, I was floored.
I had never heard a word described as a “whore” before.
It seemed like someone who was having a bad day and needed to get a new pair of panties, not a slut.
The only time I’ve ever used the word, it was when I was talking to a friend about something in a restaurant.
I was just joking around and trying to make a joke about the restaurant.
When I heard the word slut, I thought it was kind of funny.
I didn’t say it out loud, but when I looked up at the person, I smiled.
So, I tried it out and it was just like, “Oh, cool, what a lovely word to use in the context of this conversation.”
I thought, “Wow, it really does work in a non-verbally-intense situation.”
2.
Stop being a jerk.
If you see someone doing something that makes you uncomfortable, it might be a good idea to step back and think about what they are doing.
If it’s someone in a business setting, maybe they’re doing a business thing and you are just not interested.
In my experience, most people don’t like to be asked for an answer.
They want to keep their job and focus on their own business.
If someone is trying to get your attention, don’t be offended, but be patient.
Be aware that you are being used and that you may be doing something wrong.
It could be a bad idea to get involved, but if you do, step back.
It might be best if you don’t make eye contact, but don’t just ignore the person.
Just relax and just let them know how you feel.
And don’t feel bad if you make eye-contact with someone in the moment.
They probably just want to talk and it may be a funny way to get the point across.
3.
Ask for a definition.
In an informal situation, if someone is using something as an excuse to be mean, you don,t want to make them feel like they can’t talk about their situation. But,
